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Guest Post: Why Self Love is Far From Selfish 

  • By AerialFit
  • 23 Feb, 2018

We're closing out #SelfLoveFebruary with a guest post from Hollie, reminding us that prioritising yourself is anything but selfish, and really - is essential! Hollie has been a member here at AerialFit since the start of this year, and she's already shining her light in every class she's in!

Show Hollie some love by checking out her website, where you can learn more about holistic wellness, and book in some one-on-one coaching.


 

"I just woke up from a 12 hour sleep. It is 10am on a Monday, and I can’t even tell you how amazing it felt to sleep in. After waking up, I made myself a delicious smoothie bowl, sat and ate it in the sun, ran myself a hot bath and am just now sitting down in front of my laptop with a herbal tea and essential oils diffusing. Do I feel guilty about not starting my working day until 12pm? Hell no, I feel freaking awesome!

It has taken me a long time to stop feeling guilty about putting myself first. I am a reformed people-pleaser and conflict-avoider. One of those people that just likes everyone else to feel happy and comfortable – even if that meant putting my own health and sanity as secondary to everybody else.

And this isn’t a rare phenomenon. I see it all the time with my beautiful clients too. Doing everything they can to keep their family, friends and partners happy – but when it comes to their own happiness, feeling guilty for even considering putting themselves first.

It is time for this to stop.

How can we possibly be the best friend, partner, parent, son/daughter and sibling if we are not the healthiest, happiest and best version of ourself?

And how can we be the healthiest, happiest and best version of ourself when we feel bad about saying ‘no’ to people, feeling like we are letting them down – but having no concern when it comes to letting OURSELVES down.

Every time we say ‘yes’ to something when deep down we really want to be saying no, we are telling ourselves subliminally that we are not good enough. And we all do it – you are invited to a social event, with all of your favourite people, but you have had a seriously full week and would prefer to stay in. But you don’t want to say that to your friends as you will feel bad or like you are letting them down. So you say yes, go along and the entire night you are only half there because there is a huge part of you waiting for that minute you can bail and go home to bed.

Sound familiar?

I received a message last week from a beautiful woman experiencing just this. She knows that in order for her to really improve her health and wellbeing (both physical and mental) she has to start saying no to things, and prioritise rest. What she got back from her friends was that she was acting selfish for putting herself first.

If wanting to be the healthiest and happiest version of yourself is really ‘selfish’ then sign me up! But I genuinely think it is the most selfless thing you can do for yourself.

My beautiful friend Melissa Ambrosini says this all the time, and it is a lesson I remind myself and my clients every single day:

IF IT’S NOT A HELL YES, IT’S A NO!

Learn to say no without guilt. Easier said than done, right? But trust me when I say that the more you practice this, the easier it will become. And your loved ones will understand!

Put yourself first. If you would rather sleep for an extra couple of hours because your body just needs it, then sleep. And enjoy the sleep. This is no time for guilt. OWN that you are putting your health and happiness first.

Notice any time you are saying yes to someone or something because you feel like you SHOULD rather than genuinely WANTING TO. There is a big difference. Start to slowly condense the ‘shoulds’ in your life and notice how much space opens up for you.

Space for rest, play and love. Space for sleep, relaxation and movement. Or space to go out and be social if that is what you genuinely WANT to do.

Think about one thing you have planned this week that you have said ‘yes’ to when deep down, you know you should have said no to. Let that sink in. And next time something similar pops up, you know what to do."

Studio News

By AerialFit 10 Feb, 2019

Put simply, it’s the rather radical notion of loving ourselves with the same intensity and grace with which we love others.

Think about what you’d do for your best friend. If they’re sick, you’re the one making sure they take the day off and bringing them soup and tea. When they’re happy, you’re dancing around the house with them. So this month, let’s practice extending that same care and love to ourselves! We’ve collected our three favourite ways to bring a little extra love to each day, with links to help turn dreams to action…

 

Mindfulness

Another buzzword, mindfulness is a practice that can, and will change your life. Starting with three minutes, then five, then ten, and maybe even working to twenty, mindfulness is the simple practice of being present in the moment. Techniques like focussing on your breath, picking five things you can see, hear, smell, feel and taste, or even visualising warm sunlight filling you up from the inside out, can help lower anxiety levels, preserve memories and encourage healthy thought patterns. Researchers at Stanford, Harvard and UCLA have spoken: mindfulness is key to a healthy mental practice!

Grow your mindfulness muscle in our Yin Yoga, Vinyasa, Power Flow and Aerial Yoga classes , where we take a few minutes at the beginning and end of the class to focus on our breath, our body, and our presence in the room. If you’re a little nervous about going into a full hippie meditation, getting into a Yoga class is the perfect gentle introduction to mindfulness - no incense required.

You can practice mindful moments at home by simply taking deep breaths in for the count of four, and out for the count of six. Combine that with your favourite app of choice (we love Smiling Mind for free and accessible mindful practice for everyone!) and you’re one step closer into bringing a more loving aspect to your day.

 

Movement

Of course, we know that movement makes all the difference. Hundreds of our clients can testify - taking an hour to leave your phone on do not disturb, and engaging with our bodies strengthens our bodies and minds. Health professionals recommend at least pencilling in deliberate movement at least three times a week, preferably five times to encourage healthy heart function, muscular strength and the release of ‘happy hormones’ like dopamine and oxytocin throughout the body to fight stress and release physical and mental tension.

What’s key is finding your movement. For some, that’s pounding the pavement after a long day at work, for others, it’s a sun salutation bright and early in the morning, maybe hitting the Barre or flipping upside down in Aerial Yoga. Whatever your favourite kind of movement is, make sure to schedule it in advance and prioritise you! Apps like MindBody are super helpful when you’re booking in movement, since you can sync your classes here with your calendar, giving you a little reminder that today, you chose strength!

 

Meals

This one is tricky. I don’t know about you, but I am a die-hard chocoholic. There’s something about a bar of roasted almonds in milk chocolate that hits the spot; but I realised after going an hour out of my way to pick up my daily dose of chocolate, that a little treat was becoming a lot more worrisome.

We’ve all got our little vices, and do you know what… that’s okay! I think we can forget how important it is to be kind and have grace for ourselves. That kindness can be extended to mindful eating, and you’ll soon see what a difference it makes to your eating habits when you look at each meal as sacred nutrition. Much like any mindfulness practice, it takes time, effort and lots of back-and-forth to turn it into a habit. Learning to taste each flavour in a meal, and reclaiming the joy of cooking a meal is one goal we’re determined to keep as the year goes on!


All this being said, what matters most is finding your form of self-love. For me, self-love is getting up half an hour earlier to make a freshly ground cup of coffee and reading a book before the day gets too busy. For my housemate, it’s sleeping in until 10, because she knows her body needs it. My neighbour? They’re up at six for a run. Every single beautiful body is different, and when we learn to listen to the still whisper inside, we can learn to respond to our needs, and maybe even hear the needs of others… that sounds like a pretty great form of love to me!

 

How do you stay Mindful, practice Self-Love and bring gratitude to your day? Share your tips and comments below

- Eliza and the AerialFitTeam

By AerialFit 10 Feb, 2019

Memberships are one of the most cost-effective ways to attend our Studio Classes, not to mention a great way to build a habit of wellness. But when balancing budgets, attendance, bills and more can start to build up, wellness is far too often the first to go. We've come up with some of our favourite creative ways to help ensure that self-care stays through the seasons.

1.Stick it on your Wedding Registry

Celebrate your big day with the gift of wellness that will last long after the honeymoon is finished up. Add a membership to your registry and ask guests to chip in to give a gift you’ll actually use!

2. Celebrate with a Membership

You don’t need to be celebrating a wedding to ask for loved ones to combine their gifts for a membership! Whether you’re graduating (finally,) celebrating a birthday, or finishing up some tough circumstances, get the GoFundMe account out, and let’s get hustling

3. Pre-Pay Baby, Pre-Pay

It’s tax time, so why not put that tax money towards something that will last a lot longer than a new pair of shoes. You can pre-pay up to six months of your membership in-studio and get a discount, or put a dollar amount onto your account - it’s time to treat your future self

4. Get your Garage Sale on

We’re all for living a simpler, decluttered life, so clear out the cupboards, get your bake sale on, and throw a garage sale! Needing some tips on what to clear out? Check out our interview with Kirsty Farrugia where she gives us some handy decluttering tips

Bonus Tip: Gumtree and Facebook Marketplace are perfect for selling your pre-loved items within the local community, find your local Buy/Swap/Sell page and see what you can sell!

5. Give a Gift.. a Gift Voucher

Gift vouchers are the best way to combine little gifts to make a big difference. Whether it’s chipping in $5 to a gift voucher from workmates, or adding in all your AerialFit gift vouchers from last Christmas, we can combine them to make memberships a whole lot easier!

6. Baby Shower Beauty

Once you’ve got the all clear from your doctor, you can join the beautiful community of women celebrating their new motherhood in class. Some of our clients have joined us for classes right up until the week before the birth, and were back only a few weeks later! It’s a great way to stay sane before and after baby’s arrival, letting you have an hour of ‘me-time’ where it’s less about the bump, and more about taking care of your mind, body and soul.

By AerialFit 15 Aug, 2018

Spending the last two years working through a journey to mental wellness has meant putting aside obsessive calorie counting, resting from a daily 5k run and embracing the softer movements that give my body the rest and challenge it needs. Some days that looks like a gentle Yin Yoga flow to release physical and mental tension, other days it's a run around the block to get the jitters out with a Pilates-inspired workout after to strengthen my core and protect my spine so I can hold myself with strength and confidence. Sometimes it's nothing at all, a day to rest and process.

At the studio, we’re pretty proud of making space for all bodies and all abilities, and I’ve learned that this space makes all the difference. No matter the goal, we always try to include a healthy dose of positive self image in our classes, including time to stretch and challenge ourselves each day. Making time for just one class that makes me feel confident does more for my body and spirit than five punishing runs that lead to injury. Of course, there’s still more I want to learn, parts of my body that I want to see stronger and able to carry me further, but there’s a new kind of joy that helps me embrace the beauty of my summer body, every single part of it.

The summer body isn’t a seasonal body, it’s your body, in the summer. Wobbly bits, or no wobbly bits, our bodies are stronger when we learn to be confident where we’re at. Picking up an attitude of confidence, strength and self-love is far more effective than picking up a meal replacement shake, and we’d much rather have fun during a class than workout to the point of exhaustion.


Come see what makes us different, and how movement can be a celebration within the challenge. Use promo code HAPPYBODY to receive 10% off any 10 or 20 Class Pass Purchase for the next 30 days, and let’s jump into spring with confidence and strength.

*valid from August 15-September 15, 2018 for New Clients purchasing 10 or 20 Class Passes.

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